What is a Femboy?

Ever heard the term “femboy” and wondered what it really means? You’re not alone! On r/feminineboys, newcomers and long-time community members came together to define this vibrant identity—and today, we’re breaking it down just for you.

Embracing Femininity While Staying “Boy”

At its core, a femboy is someone who:

• Identifies as male (cis or trans)
• Regularly adopts feminine styles—think skirts, makeup, softer colors, and more
• Integrates femininity into everyday life, not just for costume parties or special events

“A femboy is a boy that likes to look or be feminine by dressing like a girl, acting like a girl, doing feminine things in general.”

Unlike cross-dressers, who might slip into feminine attire occasionally (cosplay, fetish, performances), femboys treat feminine clothing and mannerisms as part of their normal wardrobe and behavior.

Not a Trans Identity—But Trans Allies Welcome

Some people wonder if femboys are the same as trans women. They’re not:

• Trans Woman: Assigned male at birth, identifies as female.
• Trans Man: Assigned female at birth, identifies as male.
• Femboy: Identifies as male (cis, non-binary or trans) and embraces femininity without necessarily seeking to change gender.

“A femboy may be cis or trans (e.g., an FTM trans man can also identify as a femboy), but the core is male identity + feminine expression.”

Style Tips & Shopping Guide

Want to experiment with a femboy wardrobe? Here are some fan-favorite pieces:

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Sexuality Stands Apart

Being a femboy has nothing to do with who you’re attracted to. You can be:

• Straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, or anything else
• Just as comfortable in rooms full of girls as those full of guys

“Femboys can be straight, gay, bi, or pan; it’s completely separate from sexuality.”

Busting Common Myths

• “It’s just a kink.”
  Many femboys reject the notion that their style is fetishistic—this is about comfort and identity.
• “Femboys must be gay.”
  Nope! Plenty are straight and simply love the feminine look.
• “It’s the opposite of a tomboy.”
  Exactly! Just like tomboys lean masculine, femboys lean feminine—both celebrating gender expression.

Why People Love Being Femboys

• Self-expression: Feeling more yourself every time you dress the way you like.
• Community: Connecting with others who get it—online or IRL.
• Confidence boost: Embracing a style you love often sparks self-acceptance.

“It makes me feel so alive and like myself. It’s amazing!”

Ready to explore your feminine side? Dive into our full style guide and discover curated outfits just for femboys—because you deserve to look and feel your best every single day!

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